To a normal person, leaving everything you've ever known behind and starting a new life sounds like a terrifying experience, at the very least.
As humans, we are naturally scared of the unknown. It's ingrained in our DNA that what is unknown cannot be trusted, therefore we should fear it. But there are moments in life where you suddenly find yourself craving the unknown. Whether it’s as you’re mulling over your job, the last fight in your relationship, or when everyone and everything around you no longer makes sense, a little spark of possible adventure might strike you hard and fast- like a jolt of adrenaline.
If you've been feeling like you're settling and deserve better in your life, you're right.
If you're constantly in survival mode, simply existing to pay bills and "make a living," you're not truly present in the moment. There are many reasons for this mode of life, but that emptiness you feel is most likely caused by the squandering of your passions. "A life without passion is not a life worth living." Ever heard that quote? Chances are, you’re dealing with some variation of it.
To yearn such an adventure can only be fueled by the inner core of your soul, the only question left is: Is it really time to take the leap, or is this you once again getting lost in a momentary daydream? There are a few indicators that tell you it's probably time to pack up and say your goodbyes to a couple of things in your life.
We're all good at something. The beauty of life is the diversity that is humans, and we're capable of anything we want to achieve. Tell me, just how does an airplane work again? It's your job to mentally push and question your direction everyday. Ask yourself: Am I pursuing my passions? If the answer is no, it may be time to reevaluate your place in life.
Cultivating toxic relationships maybe one of the trickiest signs. Sometimes, you find that the people you love most, who you hold near and dear, may not always be the best influence for you. Often, you won’t realize it, especially if they mean well.
Take a hard look at the relationships you're fostering. Are the people around you benefiting you socially, emotionally, mentally, spiritually? Or are they just "filler friends,"- something you set aside for a rainy day? If your personal relationships are bringing on feelings of more stress, anxiety or depression, it may be time to cut off a few people. If this sounds like disheartening prospect, it’s your job to keep reminding yourself that you are leading into a happier life. With your best interests in mind, it should be easier to rid yourself of excess negativities.
Whether you're settling out of fear of starting over, the comfort of what you have now, or a combination of the two, settling is never okay. You want to gain the most you can out of life. Life is meant to be lived and enjoyed, not settled for. After all, we aren’t guaranteed a tomorrow, or even a future at all. If you're settling, consider switching up your routine for a bit, and watch the effects that impact you.
You're asking the wrong questions
If you find yourself asking "Why me?" more often than you ask "What next?" It’s definitely time for a change. Don’t become a victim of the stories you feed yourself. Live Purposefully Now points out that victimizing yourself will get you nowhere. Your misfortunes start with you. Where you are in life is a result of the choices you've made- Now it's up to you whether they're to be changed or not.
It's normal to feel sad. It's normal to go through hardships. It's even normal to sometimes feel like you want to give up. Unhappiness usually has a root cause. If the cause is something that plays a bigger part in your life, it may be time to call it quits, or consider heading a new direction. Ultimately, you should be happy with what you do and where you stand.
You're never satisfied
It's true that you always want what you don't have. The same goes for your everyday life. It seems we're always wanting the next best thing, constantly a step behind, never moving fast enough.
Sivana East hits their audience with a cold dose of reality: You have to live like you love it.
It’s easy to think that if you get the perfect car, home, spouse, family, and income all your problems will be solved. But that’s not true. You have to live like you love it! Regardless of what you don't have, it’s all about what fulfills you. No one ever said on their deathbed: “I wish I worked more.” Everyone seems to regret the experiences they always wanted to have, but didn’t.
If you're lacking love in parts of your life, you will be unable to nourish or breed these areas. Love all of you, every part of you, and everything that surrounds you. Self love is the strongest form of love that you can possibly cultivate. No one will love you the way you love yourself.
At the end of the day, life is just one big lesson to be learned, and the answers are within. So how do you know when it's time to start over? Ask yourself: What do you have to lose?
If you're struggling to find a reason, how much can it hurt to try something completely new?
Your happiness depends on and starts with only you. We choose what we want to make a priority and what comes secondary. If your choices seem limited, it's your mindset that is so. The world is vast, and the power of your mind is unsurmountable.
You are capable of anything, so why aren't you chasing your dreams?